Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Dust in the Wind


You ever find yourself going through a "challenging" time - something dramatic - something that feels important beyond words? And while you're going through this big life changing event it's all you can think about? You wake in the middle of the night cause you have to take a leak but falling back to sleep is impossible because thoughts of your current situation overwhelm and you stare at the ceiling till it's reasonable to get up and start the day.
During these times it's hard not to imagine that everyone else in your world isn't equally consumed with your affairs.
You walk into a crowded room or on to a pool deck and you're pretty sure that all eyes are on you and the unheard whispers concern your business.
Anyone reading this can recognize the absurdity of it when on the outside looking in, but if you're on the inside it feels like you're the center of the universe - which is likely a hot and smelly place to be.
The truth, of course, is that no one, save a small group of those involved in your scene, cares.
You're not that important.
The best your business can hope for is a few dedicated minutes of conversation at the local Starbucks, where people running in your circles try to fill the hours with idle conversation. Then they'll move on to the next big thing and ultimately go home where they will be consumed by their own crap.

NOW just imagine the freedom there would be in truly not giving a shit what anyone thought about you.

2 comments:

Dominic said...

We are social animals, noone I know is secure enough to do their own thing without seeking some kind of approbation, attention or whatever...it would be against human nature to do so! Anyone telling me they don't give a shit about what other people think confirms this theory....

The fact is, as you pointed out, nobody really cares anyway...the other thing is this: it's ok to seek a bit of attention, it's ok to have this need to be liked by others. Not everyone can be like Mother Theresa...and even her...she wanted to be liked. As long as you remain human, with all the qualities it implies, you're ok.

For all it's worth...these were my 2 cents....

Cheers!

ps. I hope you care....

Skippy Two Shoes said...

Well said Dominic!!!
Yes, it's an ideal we can seldom achieve.
But I, for one, am going to try a little harder to JUST NOT CARE!!